As I said on the air today, I think this is more about context than content. She's suggesting the House Speaker has a sexual interest in her. And by raising hte "no means no" specter, she's comparing it with sexual assault. What she said on the house floor was, "Mr. Speaker I'm flattered by your interest in my vagina, but no means no."
And it gets annoying how women get a pass on this type of public language when men would be crucified for it.